Monday, July 18, 2016

Perseverance


- Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trail, for when he has stood the test he will receive
- the crown of life,
- which God  has promised to those who love him.     James 1:12



Whatever the trail, I urge you to keep pushing through. The light on the other side is there waiting for you .This weekend we actually were able to take some time to rest- that sounds like banana business I'm sure, but seriously- it was fantastic. We have been trying to have " family" clean up time everyday during the week so no one is left  doing chores all weekend. It also helps that every afternoon or evening we have a 4 song dance party pick up. We pick 4 songs, blast the volume and we all clean up till the music stops. When you have kids home- you know how messy  
things can get. The dance party has saved my sanity!

Sometimes resting is the most spiritual thing you can do. Calming yourself, calming your spirit and just finding peace. I promise, in the midst of chaos, when it seems like there is nothing else, make time to rest. When we are exhausted, we are vulnerable, moody, uncreative and unproductive. Those are not necessarily quality traits I'd like to keep in my back pocket. So, while you're on your 5th cup of coffee this evening or 5th glass of wine ( no judgement here), start thinking ahead now, baby steps, to what you can do to find rest for yourself and for your loved ones this week.




XO, Ladymvega

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Dear Self...

Dear Self
My pen has barely hit the paper and I'm already in tears. Knowing that writing this letter will put you in one of those vulnerable states that you dislike so much. Sometimes your stricken with so much emotion and second guessing your abilities as a mother, that I hurt for you. I know you better then anyone, but yet still, you many times don't even believe me, you, when I say " you're doing a great job." Motherhood wasn't meant for the faint of hearts. Being a mother is hard. Being a mother is exhausting. Being a mother is many times unfair, BUT, being a mother is wonderful!! Being a mother is rewarding beyond any and all measures!! Being a mother is something that not anything could ever compare to! Being a mother is such an incredible blessing and has helped created the woman you are, we are, today.

You often choose to say no because you always fear the worst, you let your anxiety take over more days then not. I see you fighting your anxiety daily and some days its too overwhelming and you become someone that you're not. You shelter your children. And thought you do it out of love, you are ultimately depriving them. As they get older, you must learn to be confident in the way you've raised them. Having faith that they will make the right decisions. You have to realize that they may not always make good decisions, and that their bad decisions are not a way a reflection of a mother you were, you are.
Worry less and play more. Do not let the fear of something, bad happening to your children prevent you from embracing life's adventures with your children. Stop trying to control every moment and just let the moments control themselves. Pray, have faith, and take chances, knowing that your children are protected by someone greater than yourself. There will come a time when you will read this letter, and I'm sure you will break down. There will be tears, and there very well be some regret. But, with the regret there will be joy, oh sweet momma there will be so much joy. Joy in being able to see how far you've come into your journey. Joy in being able to see that yes, you were in fact a wonderful mother who at times made mistakes, but ALWAYS loved. It is my hope, my prayer, that you continue to embrace this journey we are on. I pray that you remember all the good memories that you've provided for your children. Always know that no one can be a better mother to those Vega Beauties than you. And most importantly, remember that we are in this together. Never give up on yourself. Never give up on us.
Sincerely,
A Part of You

Monday, July 11, 2016

Just "Be" and Don't Do


Hello Lovelies and Happy Monday, I don't know about you, but I like to accomplish tasks through out my day. I struggle with "doing" everything I want to do in one day, there never seems to be enough time in a day. It was a lot easier during the school year, all three Vega Beauties were in school and I had a house keeper. Summer break is in full force here at Casa De Vega which means my house is filled with lots of laughter, giggling, jumping with three girls who are non stop and filled with a lot of energy. During summer break we don't use a house keeper, were are trying to show the girls "real" life lessons during the summer since I have more time with them: how to clean their bedrooms, bathrooms, how to do their laundry, cook and little household tasks.

I am striving to simplify my life ( this is a constant action), do what God has planned for my life and enjoy each moment. I get distracted, I get caught up in the American rat race and get sucked into the quick instant now of everything... and I detest that. Even with trying to simplify my life, I find myself trying to fill my days with tasks..yes good task that need to be done.. house cleaning, laundry, dishes, cooking, organizing, errands, etc. I find myself getting frustrated when I cant complete a task on my list at the time I want it completed.

Anxiety starts to creep up and I get stressed. I love my life and being able to spend every moment with my daughters. I need to start letting go. In a peaceful moment ( literally 10 minutes of alone time) I prayed and " just be, don't do" literally popped into my head. At that moment it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders, as those were the exact words I needed to be placed on my heart. Since that moment I changed little things in my day-to-day life. I stopped rushing. I have focused on spending more quality time with my girls and have seen that I can still get my weekly needed tasks done.

Be present, first and foremost. I am going to strive to be present in every second of life. When I am with family, actually BE with my family, no distractions- phones, Instagram, Facebook, etc. This is one area I am most desirable to actively pursue. I don't want to miss a minute of these sweet Vega beauties life's, simply because I wasn't living in the present moment. I can't even stand how fast time has already gone, I certainly cant miss a moment.
I am going to BE me! BE myself, BE who I want to BE just like that!
I love the thought of the millions of avenues this one word will be able to open.
It can apply to every aspect of my life.
I feel such an inspiring sense of excitement and motivation.
I know it wont be easy, but I will strive every moment just to BE!!

What about you? Are you allowing Jesus to lead your life? Or are you allowing distractions to lead your life? I encourage you to take a step back and evaluate your life and tasks and pray for peace, faith and be open as God leads you to the life He has planned for YOU. He will lead you down the road to BE the best you He created you to BE!!
                                                                                       XO, Ladymvega

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Weekend Edition: Frisco, Texas

Happy Wednesday, lovelies! This weekend was a great one!
Our adventure started off with an exciting bang that set the tone for our whole three day weekend.. Mr. V surprised us with a weekend getaway, to Frisco, Texas,( I love the Dallas/Plano/Frisco area it's one of my favorite places to go).
Bright & Early at 5:00 am was our wake up call.  We packed up and hit the road with smiles on our faces and the excitement of not knowing where we were heading or what we were going to do when we got there.
 
I've been wanting to stay in the Embassy Suites in Frisco Texas but every time we go to book our stay they are always booked. so imagine my excitement when we pulled up and Mr. V said he booked us a room for the three day weekend!! We have been honorary Hilton members before we had kids so we always stay with The Hilton chain. Embassy Suites is our favorite, how can you go wrong with complimentary " Happy Hour and refreshment's" plus a complimentary cooked to order breakfast! 
The Frisco Embassy Suites has a relaxing Botanical Spa inside, just what every momma needs a little R&R

I got a little ahead of myself ( I was daydreaming of "happy hour" and spa days) before we arrived at our home away from home, we made a little visit to the Dallas Zoo.

We love the Zoo, it's one of our favorite things to do as a family. We started our traditional Zoo visits when K1 was just a few months old, and we have continued it with each one of our Vega beauties. Little tradtions as well as big traditions are important to our family.
Here are a few of our favorite pictures we took this weekend..







I'm not sure who was more adorable cooling off, Mr. V or the Elephant?? 

I love My Tribe.

The view from our Balcony, Dr Pepper Ball field. 
Time for dinner with my favorite people. 
 
K2 just couldn't hang with us, apparently we party to hard and long( it was only 7:30 pm).

Mr. V kept the surprise factor going so we never knew where we were going or what we were doing. 
Day 2: Hawaiian Falls: The Colony.
Lets just say we had a car full of overly excited girls when they found out we were going to their first water park. I know someone of you are saying, What?? their first water park? I have major water anxiety issues, that go way back to my childhood, but I'm not a party pooper! 
If you are ever in this area make sure you go check it out, we had a BLAST!! The weather that day was perfect sunny with a slight breeze. of course everyone is on summer break so yes it was crowded but it wasn't bad the lines weren't long and it wasn't that uncomfortable body to body, your touching me crowded.
We had an unbelievable experience and meet Darren Mcfadden and his family. Just for those who don't know, Darren Mcfadden is a Dallas Cowboy Running back, former player of The Oakland Raiders and former Razorback Hog, WPS!! We have lived in Arkansas for close to 9 years so being a Hog Fan kind of goes hand in hand. So anyone is Arkansas can share the excitement and love we we're feeling. I was talking to his wife ( I had no idea who she was at the time), Mr. V said "do you know who that is," ummm no. He explained that she was Darren Mcfadden's wife. I was blown away. We continued to talk with them, our kids played at the water park and to my surprise they were completely normal down to earth people. No security, no look at me I'm famous just another couple tasking their kids to the water park. No, I don't have any pictures we took the two pictures up top as soon as we got there I out my phone in the locker and enjoyed every moment "being" in the moment verses my usual have to capture every moment and post it. I'm working on "being" lately, but that's for another day another post. No pictures only the cool memories of hanging out with him and his family at the water park.

Family time is very important to us. Here are a few pictures of our little weekend getaway.. 


Taking decent pictures of all 5 of us always seems like a stretch (K2's smile) 
and another one, K1's smile 
Mr. V and I are probably not your best example on always taking great pictures, maybe its a family thing?? 

However you spent the 4th of July weekend, I hope you were surround by family, friends, good food, lots of laughter but most importantly remembered and gave thanks for the reason we are able to celebrate
 Thank you to all those brave men and women. 
xo Lady M Vega